Ghareloo Jhagre

[Honest]

Assalm-o Alequm,

 

Me aap ky sath apna ek masla shear karna chahta hun … bara-e-mehrbani meri bhi rehnumai farmaye… me aap ky sath apna ek masla shear karna chahta hun.

 

Meri shadi ko 2 saal hone wale hen meri arrange marriage hy. Meri ek 11 month ki beti bhi hy.. Maa Baap or 1 behen or 2 bhai gher shadi shuda hen…. mera masla ye hy ky shadi ky shoro din sy hi meri family ki or meri wife ki aapas me hani bani or rozana hi kesi na kesi bat par laraye jghre hote rehty the.. agar me kesi bhi jayez bat par apni wife ki tarafdari kerta tu family ka bora banta or agar kesi bat par apni wife ko samjhata tu who kehti ky aap ko apne ghar waloo ki koi ghalti nazar nahi aati hy.. me zehni tor par bohot upside rehne laga tha essi doran ALLAH ny mujhe ek payri si beti sy nawaza.. lekin laraye jhgre khatam nahi hoye. Meri maa or family ye chati thi ky meri wife un ki marzi sy chale un ki marzi sy apne maa baap ky ghar jaye or phone par bhi apny ghar waloo sy kam sy kam bat kary… kafi sari batton me meri wife ny compromise kar leya tha lekin agar koi ek bhi bat mri family ki marzi ky khilaf ho jati tu who sab ki nazar me bori ban jati or koi bhi us ki jaeez bat me bhi us ka sath nahi deta tha jis par woh or zayda ghussa karti thi or bhot zayada badmezajh ho gai thi or mere maa baap or behen bhaiyoo sy laraye shoroo ho jati thi… or bat mazid bigar jati thi

 

Phir meri beti ki birth ky 15 din bad meri family ny kaha ky is ko is ky maa baap ky ghar chor do or palat kar is ki khabar tak na loo khud hi theek ho jaye gi phir who pany maa baap kyghar chali gai or 2 month tak me ny koi rabta nahi rakha or na hi call par bat ki woh mujhe call karti bhi thi tu me received nahi karta tha… aakhir kar dono family ky baroo ko betha kar sulah safai ho gai or who bhi dobara mery ghar aagye or apni zimedari sambhal li… lekin kuch din bad phir meri family ny us ky kamoo me buraiyan nikalna shoroo kar den or ek bar phir ghar ka sukon kharab ho gaya or woh na chahty hoye bhi dobara meri beti ky sath apny maa baap ky ghar chali gaye.

 

phir me ny faisla kiya ky ab me apni wife ko ly kar separate ho jaoo or maa baap ky ghar ky kareeb hi koi rent par ghar ly loo… esi dooran meri family ka umreh par jane ka program ban gaya or mery ghar wale mujh sy khene lage ky me us ko wapas ly kar aajaoo ta ky woh log sokoon sy umre par ja saken… phir me ny bohot mushkil sy apni wife ko ghar ane par razi kiya or faisla ye howa ky umreh sy wapsi par kio essa ghar ly lengy jo upar niche ka ho is tarhan ham log sath bhi rehn gy… lekin umreh par jane sy 2 din phley meri family ny feslah kiya ky jab who log umreh par jaye gy tu meri wife mery sath mery ghar me nahi rehe gi balky apne maa baap ky ghar chali jaye gi kun ky mery chote bhai ky sath us ki nahi banti hy.. me ny apny maa baap ko bohot samjhaya ky aap logo ky jane ky baad mery khany peny ka khayal kon rekhe ga mujhe bohot problem ho jaye gi lekin meri family nahi mani or meri wife ky ghar wale kafi laraye jhgra hone ky bad us aakar ly gaye…

 

Family ky umreh sy aane ky baad me apni family sy separate ho gaya or apne maa baap ky qareeb hi ek flat ly liya or apne maa baap ka bhi khiyal rakhne laga un ky pas har 2 sy 3 din me chakkar lagata or apni beti ko bhi un ky pas ly kar jata hun or un ka haq bhi un ko deta behen ki shadi ky liye BC ki raqam bhi deta… lekin 2 month bad meri maa any mujh sy kaha ky tum apni susral waloo sy nahi meloo gy na hi woh log tumhare ghar aayen gy or agar tum un sy meloo gy tu tumhara ham sy koi talooq nahi hoga…or jo zewar mery ghar waloon ny meri wife ko diya tha who bhi meri maa ny zabt kar liya hy… ab me bohot ziyada pareshan hun or kuch samajh nahi aarah ky maa ka huqoom manoo ya susral walo sy meloo… aap sy guzarish hy ky aap mujhe koi mashwarah den ky me kya karo?? Mujhe aap ky jawab ka intizar reh ga... Shukriya.. Assalam-o-Alequm.

 

 

 

 

[shahzad6058811]

ya gharilu muaamlaat har family main hotay rehay hain. maan baap ka bhee adab karain aur b v ko bhee izzat dain.  asal jhgra  aam tour par larkay ke behnoon ke taraf say hota hay,jin ke apni shaadiaan naheen hoti aur badla bhaabi say layteen hain.  aap alag ho gay, theek kia, parents ko time daitay rahain.  aap ke walda aap ko susraal say qata rehmee kee taaleem day rahee hain ya sakhat gunah hay. 

 

kal aap ke behan ka husband aap kee behan ko aap kay parents say naheen milnay day ga to phir kia ho ga.  apnay father ko akailay main aitmaad main lain and un ko samjha ain kay hamari behnoon kay susral waalay bhee mother jaisa tareeqa ikhtiaar vkarain to phir kia ho ga.

 

thoray dinoon k liee ay susraal kay ghar kam jana shuru karain. aur apni saas ko bata dain apni problem.  thora say break dain gay to aap ke mother khush ho ja ain gee to aahista aahista haalaat normal ho ja ain gay.

 

aap kay bhaee ke shadi ho gee to new dulhan in ko seedah kar day gee phir aap kee izzaat dobara barh ja ay gee.

 

parents say jhgra mat karain. b v ko bhee aitmaad main lain.

 

sub theek ho ja ay ga.

[Hanfi-Barelvi]

is maqaam pr app k chotay bhai ka roll sb sy aham hai ...

Chota bhai agr ap k sath ho jaye tu achi baat hai , wo maa baap ko samjhay ga tu maa baap us ki baat maan

lein gye.

meray ghr mein b kuch asi hi surat e haaal hai >>

aur mein bhaiyon mein chota hn>>

magr mein apni maa ko b samjhata hn k apni bahoo ko apni beti samjhain wo hamaray ghr ka hi member hain.

aur bhabi ko b samjhta hn ..k ab ap yeh ap k maa baap hain... Jis terah hm apny haqeeqi maa baap ki daand dapat bardast kr lytaya  hain . isi terah sushar aur saas b maa baap ki jaga hain.
 

[Honest]

Dear 

Hanfi-Barelvi

Aap ky comments karny ky liye thanx. 

 

Mery choty Bhai bhi mery khelaf hen un ka kehna hy k me apny maa baap ko chor ka chala gya hun or un ki nazar me meri waja sy hi meri wife ny mery maa baap ky sath battameezi ki hy or me ny apni wife ka sath diya hy... or apny ghar waloo ka sath nahi diya hy....

 

Ab jab ky me alag ho gaya hun tu mery bhai behnoo ko mera apny maa baap sy milna bhi pasand nahi hy me jab bhi apny maa baap sy milny un ky paas jata hun tu mery bhai behan mujh sy bohot battamzi sy pesh aaty hen jabky mery maa baap un ko mana karty hun or dantty bhi hen lekin wo phir bhi mery sath bura salok karty hun..

 

yahan tak ky me eid wale din bhi apny ghar 3 bar gaya lekin mery bhai behen ny na mujh sy eid mili or na hi mujh sy salam dua ki thi...

 

is liye muje umeed nahi hy ky mery choty bahi in halat me mera sath den gy ya koi important roll aada karen gy... 

[Honest]

ya gharilu muaamlaat har family main hotay rehay hain. maan baap ka bhee adab karain aur b v ko bhee izzat dain.  asal jhgra  aam tour par larkay ke behnoon ke taraf say hota hay,jin ke apni shaadiaan naheen hoti aur badla bhaabi say layteen hain.  aap alag ho gay, theek kia, parents ko time daitay rahain.  aap ke walda aap ko susraal say qata rehmee kee taaleem day rahee hain ya sakhat gunah hay. 

 

kal aap ke behan ka husband aap kee behan ko aap kay parents say naheen milnay day ga to phir kia ho ga.  apnay father ko akailay main aitmaad main lain and un ko samjha ain kay hamari behnoon kay susral waalay bhee mother jaisa tareeqa ikhtiaar vkarain to phir kia ho ga.

 

thoray dinoon k liee ay susraal kay ghar kam jana shuru karain. aur apni saas ko bata dain apni problem.  thora say break dain gay to aap ke mother khush ho ja ain gee to aahista aahista haalaat normal ho ja ain gay.

 

aap kay bhaee ke shadi ho gee to new dulhan in ko seedah kar day gee phir aap kee izzaat dobara barh ja ay gee.

 

parents say jhgra mat karain. b v ko bhee aitmaad main lain.

 

sub theek ho ja ay ga.

Dear 

shahzad6058811

App ky comments ky liye thankx..... Mery ghar me mery father ki nahi chalti hy... or mery behen bhai bhi meri mother ka hi sath dety hen... har achi or buri bat me.. so I am very Upset right now.... kuch samajh nahi aaraha ky kya karoon....